Yes I know, I’m supposed to be posting every week.
But this one holds special importance to me, so I took a little more time with it. In fact, I’m splitting it into two parts! (the other I will publish a few days after this one)
This one will also be a bit different.
I’m going to share some information I’ve recently been learning, and to which I’m now becoming fully aware.
This information is paraphrased from the Conversations with God books by Neale Donald Walsch.
A couple years ago I was searching for answers to major questions I had, and trying to decide what it was I really believed — about life and the universe as a whole.
As I really started to form my own thoughts and beliefs, I very “randomly” came across these books. And I discovered that these books captured very accurately, and put into very precise words and ideas what, up until then, I could only retain in my mind. For the first time I found words for my thoughts and was able to see my beliefs and questions all come together in a beautiful, cohesive Whole.
What I’m going to share today is just one aspect of those many things on which I’ve recently been able to gain a concrete knowingness.
It’s called the Be-Do-Have paradigm, and most people have it reversed. Most people believe if they “have” a thing (more time, money, love—whatever), then they can finally “do” a thing (write a book, travel, undertake a relationship), which will allow them to “be” a thing (happy, peaceful, content, or in love).
What I’m starting to understand is that this is actually a reversal of the Be-Do-Have paradigm. “Havingness” does not actually produce “beingness.” It’s the other way around.
For example, if you want to “be happy,” you start by “doing” things from this place of being-happy-ness. Soon you’ll discover that what you are doing winds up bringing you the things you’ve always wanted to “have.”
To put this in practical terms: look at what it is you want to “have,” and ask yourself what you think you would “be” if you “had” that, then go straight to being.
In my own life, there have been plenty of times when I thought if I could only have a little more time, a little more money, or a little more love, then I’d be truly happy. I didn’t get the connection between “not being very happy” right now, and not having the time, money, or love I wanted. And the person who is “being” happy, has time to do everything that’s really important, all the money that’s needed, and enough love to last a lifetime.
They find everything they need to “be happy”… by “being happy” to begin with! Deciding ahead of time what they choose to be, and producing that in their experience.
Happiness is a state of mind. And like all states of mind, it reproduces itself in physical form.
When you come from “happiness,” you do certain things because you are happy. You don’t do things because they’ll make you happy.
When you come from “wisdom,” you do certain things because you are wise, not because you are trying to get to wisdom.
When you come from “love,” you do certain things because you are love. You don’t do things because you want to have love.
I hope you can see the reversal here. When you come from “being,” rather than seeking to “be.” You cannot “do” your way to “being.” Whether you are trying to “be” happy, be wise, be love, or be anything, you cannot “get there” by doing.
So how can one “be” happy to begin with, or “be” anything if they don’t have what they think they need in order to be that?
Well, my friends, the answer to that will come in part 2!